i wrote this post 7 years ago. with the election less than a week away, i thought we could all use a little…”perspective”

august 21, 2009

I’ve been thinking a lot about how we look at things and judge. It’s easy when you’re on the outside of a situation to say what you would do or what should be done. But what happens when you’re the one in the middle of it? Do things change? The situation is the same, but how you relate to it takes on a whole new meaning. For whatever reasons, religious, moral, political, familial…we form beliefs and opinions about things then hold them to be truths. One thing that got me thinking about this was watching my grandmother dying. it took me back. 21 years. i watched my mom when she was dying as well. it gave me a new understanding for people who help someone who is terminally ill die. I can’t think of very many things worse than watching someone suffer and not being able to help relieve their pain. Yet most people have a “belief” about this. One that was formed based on the reasons I mentioned earlier.
There is a great debate over healthcare reform, but where do we find the answer? My opinion about it is based on personal experience as is most people’s. So where is the truth? The Bible? I’ve heard scripture quoted on both sides and as with most situations, we hear what we want to hear.
When all of my kids were little, I used to think I knew what I would do in certain situations when they got older. I looked at people who had teenagers and made judgements about them. I was so sure MY kids would never… Then I had teenagers and all of that flew right out the window. There is nothing like being in the middle of it to change your perspective. So why is it that we can’t see things from other people’s viewpoint?
Maybe the answer lies in caring for people rather than truth. Maybe it’s about loving your neighbor as yourself rather than protecting yourself. Maybe if we all stopped judging long enough to look around us and reach out to help those in need rather than insulating ourselves from the world then our differences wouldn’t matter so much. Even our differences in opinion…


footnote:  i cannot and will not claim to understand how people can vote any other way than i did, however i do believe that in any given situation if we were put in the other person’s place i.e., we were born, raised, and lived the life they did, we would make the same decisions. it doesn’t mean that we have to agree, in fact we probably won’t, but it does mean we should try to have respect and look at the bigger picture. the bigger picture being feeding the hungry, helping the homeless, fighting for equal rights for all, making sure everyone has affordable healthcare…the list goes on. it is my perspective that these are the things that matter, these are the things we should fight for. these are the things i will continue to support…and it doesn’t matter who the POTUS is, that will never change.

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